Our Montreal-based Madam Curator, Sarah, is looking for a Montreal-based intern to assist with the daily tasks associated with curating and promoting #realworldsex through MakeLoveNotPorn.tv and MakeLoveNotPorn.com.

The ideal candidate is someone highly self-motivated with great communication and organizational skills and a passion for spreading the MakeLoveNotPorn message. Attention to detail and a strong interest in mastering the behind the scenes work that contributes to keeping a sextech start-up running are a must.

Working both independently and alongside Madam Curator, this internship offers the right candidate the opportunity to contribute to something they feel passionate about while developing the skills and experience needed to stand out from the crowd.

The right candidate is someone who will dazzle us so much with their commitment and skill that we’ll have no choice but to hire them full-time down the line!

As the forward-thinking venture that we are, we’re always looking for the right people to add to our team when the time, and more importantly – funding – comes.

Hours: 5 hrs/week

Compensation: $10.55/hr

Responsibilities

• Monitoring site traffic and filing reports.

• Record keeping in accordance with 2257 requirements.

• Book keeping related to MLNPstar earnings and payouts.

• Online outreach and promotion using Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook.

• Various community management tasks including monitoring and responding to comments on MLNP.com and responding to user issues via email.

• Monitoring and posting on blogs, forums.

• Occasional outreach and promotion IRL at events, etc.

Requirements

• Must be Montreal-based.

• Must meet or exceed expectations regarding self-motivation, organization and communication. You have experience prioritizing tasks and taking the workload of team members into account when doing so.

• Must demonstrate passion and familiarity with MLNP.tv and its mission.

• Must be experienced with Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook, WordPress, Reddit, Google drive, Google sheets, and Google analytics.

• Must be available 5hrs/week on a consistent schedule and be comfortable working independently within a deadline-oriented context that sometimes requires flexibility around when hours are completed.
• Must be 100% reliable – you are the kind of person who always shows up or communicates instantly if they can’t.

Assets

• Some experience and/or a strong interest in: social media marketing and data collection/analysis.

Interested candidates: please send an email outlining relevant experience and skills and explaining why you want to be Madam Curator’s Montreal-based intern to Sarah@makelovenotporn.tv.

Deadline for applications: January 1, 2016.

I, Madam Curator, Sarah, will be in PDX January 22-28, 2016!

If you’ve been thinking about becoming a MLNPstar but have some last minute questions you’d like answered IRL beforehand — or are looking for a gentle in-person nudge from me — this visit is the perfect (and rare!) opportunity for just that.

I’m looking to have a low key meet-up over drinks at one of Portland’s many delicious cocktail bars. If interested, please drop me a line at Sarah@makelovenotporn.tv with the subject line: PDX meet-up.

Feeling a bit shy? Please don’t — after meeting other current and future MLNPstars in both New York and London, I can confidently say we are lucky enough to have some of the sweetest and most gracious community members around!

Interested in learning more about why our MLNPstars love sharing their #realworldsex on MLNP.tv? Check out our MLNPstars Speak section.

Secretly longing to share your #realworldsex on MLNP.tv but can’t quite bring yourself to? Have a #realworldsex video you want to post but haven’t gotten up the nerve to hit ‘submit’? You’re keen, your partner isn’t – or vice versa? Worried about how you look? We celebrate #realworldbodies – so don’t be shy, be proud!

I’m looking to meet anyone and everyone in PDX interested in sharing their #realworldsex – couples, singles, or whatever your particular arrangement may be. Come with your partner or alone, or bring a friend who’s also interested.

Help us represent as many identities, communities and possibilities as we can! While MLNP.tv currently isn’t as diverse as we’d like it to be – we’re serious about changing that. In particular, we welcome people of color, other marginalized folks, and those who identify under the LGBTQ+ umbrella to attend this meet-up.

Finally, it goes without saying that you should be familiar with what we mean by #realworldsex and what we look for when we curate.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you and can’t wait to meet you in Portland!

Written by Becca Grimm for BUSTLE. Originally published on January 8th, 2015.

When it comes to having morning sex, the early bird catches the … I’m not even gonna finish that one. We’ll stick with this: Rise and bang, y’all. There’s much more than double-shot espressos or punishing treadmill poundings waiting on the other end of an early wake-up call. Morning sex has so many perks that you’ll forget it was ever tempting to hit snooze.

For whatever reason, conventional sex culture holds a powerful association between boning and nighttime. For most people, canoodling time traditionally comes at the close of a day, when both parties are wiped out, hair askew, nerves fried. The hours before sleep usually sees us with bodies depleted of the spirit and vigor necessary to make sex anything other than relatively blah. Plus, it’s dark, so what are you even looking at right now? Often, when a workday starts winding itself down, the only thing that sounds particularly enticing is takeout and your couch. Sometimes, you can summon enthusiasm to get yourself and another person off, but liiike … shouldn’t you want it more than that? It doesn’t have to be this way, guys.

Not that I don’t get why we tend to put sexy time at the end of the day in our mental planners. It’s usually before sleep, when couples are spending any awake time in bed together. In the morning, it’s all about soaking up as many moments of sleep as possible, so there isn’t a lot of downtime before you actually have to get up. For pairs who are still dating, that mostly happens at night. But all of that aside, doesn’t it seem more logical that we would enjoy sex more if we did it during a time of day when our bodies were rested and fresh, with all of our nerves ready to do their most pleasurable jobs?

It’s time we shine some complimentary light on this hugely underrated (and underrepresented), glorious breed of getting busy. You can make yourself a morning person, despite natural tendencies telling you not to. You might as well make yourself a morning person who also scores. There is seriously no reason to stay up all night to get lucky.

It Relaxes You For The Day Ahead

It’s hard to let bad traffic annoy you when you pull onto the highway alreadymad chill. “Couple sex with a cup of coffee for a fantastic start to your day … it’s more relaxing than a wake and bake,” VICE sex columnist Sophie St. Thomas told Bustle. Such truth. Getting off first thing in the morning can be kinda like a big bong rip or a consolidated yoga class — it calms frazzled nerves.

It Turns Your Brain On

Orgasms are good for your brain. Not only does la petite mort increase oxygen and blood flow to this vital organ, it summons other various nutrients as well. Essentially, having sex can activate your entire brain. YEP.

The Lighting Is Way Flattering

Sure, you’re still a bit out of it and less self-aware than normal, but the fact remains: When the sun hangs low in the sky, its light becomes diffused and softens. The “golden hour” is an actual thing that exists. It happens twice a day, once during the last hour of light before sunset (likely when you’re still at work, possibly enjoying a sad desk salad) and again the first hour after sunrise. I think we know the more realistic option between the two, if you’re looking to get sexy with the most help from nature’s dimmer switch. You can actually find the specific golden hour where you live, and plan accordingly for extra gorgeous grinding.

Head over to BUSTLE to read the rest of the article! My mind is personally blown from the golden hour detector– we would love to see you making some #goldenhourlovenotporn!

Written by Amy Schalet for The Conversation. Originally published on February 25th, 2016.

Last month, Tom Porton, an award-winning, veteran Bronx high school teacher, handed in his resignation after colliding with the school’s principal. Porton had distributed HIV/AIDS education fliers listing nonsexual ways of “Making Love Without Doin’ It” (including advice to “read a book together”).

What does it say when a teacher who encourages students to discuss nonsexual ways to express love causes controversy? And how do discussions at school about sex affect teenagers? Do adults lose teenagers’ trust when they are not allowed to speak frankly about how to create healthy intimacy?

My cross-national research on adolescent sexuality shows a profound discomfort in American society not just with teenage sex, but with teenage love. And the silence among adults that results – in families, schools and the culture at large – may take a particular toll on adolescent boys.

What does love have to do with it?

Political battles have raged for decades about whether and how public school students in the U.S. should be taught about condoms and other forms of contraception even though the majority of American youth lose their virginity during their teenage years.

The United States has seen more political strife and cultural controversy around adolescent sexuality than many other countries that went through a sexual revolution in the 1960s and ‘70’s. The Netherlands is an interesting comparative case: Like the U.S., Dutch society was culturally conservative in the 1950s. But Dutch society emerged from the sexual revolution with a more positive approach to adolescent sexuality, one that center-stages love.

American curricula tend to focus on physical acts and dangers – disease and pregnancy – often eschewing positive discussions of sexual pleasure or emotional intimacy.

Feminist scholars have critiqued American sex education for its overemphasis of danger and risk, noting the cost to teenage girls. Scholars have argued that the “missing discourse” of girls’ desire impedes their sense of power in and outside of relationships, leaving them poorly equipped to negotiate consent, safety and sexual satisfaction.

But scholars have paid less attention to the missing discourse of teenage love in American sex education, and its effects on boys, who confront a broader culture that provides scant recognition of, or support for, their emotional needs.

Head over to The Conversation to read the rest of this article!

By Jayn Griffith for The Establishment. Originally published on March 11th, 2016.

Whether you keep up with celebrity affairs or not, you can’t really ignore the Kardashians—and you definitely can’t avoid knowing what people think about them. When Kim Kardashian posted a nude selfie on Twitter this week, there was a smattering of “you go girl” support, but also a wave of criticism about her immodesty or her pathological need for attention. The response from the public and from other celebrities said a lot about what we think of Kim Kardashian, but even more about what we think of women’s bodies and sexuality. In a culture where we see billboard-sized images of boobs on the daily, why is it this nude picture that makes everyone clutch their pearls?

When a woman is depicted in a sexualized way, with no depth beyond her appearance in order to sell beer, cars, or sandwiches, we call it advertising. We see it everywhere in public space and in media, and hardly anyone ever objects.

When overtly sexual or nude photos and videos of women are posted online or nude photos are printed in magazines, we call it porn. We don’t see it everywhere in the public space, but we’re aware of its ubiquity, and as a culture we look the other way. We say, “Boys will be boys.” Looking at porn is as all-American as sneaking a look at your father’s Playboy. Yet being a porn star is considered incredibly shameful for a young woman.

It’s okay to look at porn. It’s okay to consume images of women’s bodies. It’s not okay to offer up your body to be seen.

The women in porn are almost always presented as passive to the male gaze, unyielding, with no complication of a personality, no danger to the male ego of possibly hearing the word “no,” existing only for the pleasure of men’s eyes. The women in advertising are often cut up into body parts—just a midriff, just a pair of legs—or turned into objects. Those are the times a woman’s form and sexuality are acceptable. But if you are a woman just feeling yourself and expressing your sexuality, presenting yourself the way you feel like at any given moment, or leveraging your own power or sexual energy, you are condemned and disrespected, maybe even threatened, assaulted, or killed.

When a woman is feeling good about the way she looks—empowered, beautiful, or confident in her appearance—and expresses this feeling by taking a photo of herself, clothed or nude, and sharing it online, we punish her. We call her names like “slut,” “trash,” “attention-starved,” “a bad mother,” “a bad role model.” If her photos are stolen, we say she deserved it. The message is that it’s okay to commodify a woman’s body, it’s okay to co-opt female sexuality, as long as the woman in question is passive in it and it’s for someone else’s commercial gain or the express use of men’s sexual titillation and gratification.

To read the rest of this article, click right here!

As a tip of the hat to National Lingerie Day on April 24th, our latest edition MakeLingerieLoveNotPorn is all about dressing up and having fun #realworldsex-style! While it’s not exactly news that frolicking in a gussied up pair of knickers can be fun, we think this holiday is a great excuse to highlight the way that getting #dressedup is as much about how it makes the wearer feel, as it is about whoever they might be wearing it in front of, be it a lover or a mirror!

Playing with clothing designed specifically for the boudoir can evoke different moods, enhance role-play, and allow us to tap into new and exciting fantasies. And, as hardcore lingerie lovers like MLNPstars Redfox and Rickat, know, once the mood is set, it has the power to transform an ordinary day by helping to create the mental and emotional space for something magical to happen.

As we’ve witnessed on MLNP.tv, it’s not just women who enjoy slipping on a lil somethin’ somethin’ to enhance their natural form — lingerie-play is for every body! Whether it’s Colin wearing something sheer and strappy while worshipping Gray, or Richard Coyote donning his fave pink cape and spandex briefs to transform into a queer superhero, we’re thrilled to have videos that showcase #realworldguys having fun with their underthings. What’s more, we love drawing attention to the fact that — surprise! — folks who have sex with guys like seeing their lovers try out different barely-there looks and often give feedback and suggestions, too.

Another way to have #realworldfun with lingerie can be to get all decked out with your sweetie and then do an underthings switcheroo! I mean how cute and coy was it when Ember put on VonBettie’s Valentine’s Day gift and then made her partner unwrap it by undressing her? That, plus the fact that Ember doesn’t normally wear lacy undies, drove Von Bettie (and us) wild! Or, how about when Tabby asked Monkey to wear her panties and he eagerly obliged? Or, Doris and Don getting in the mood on their 28th wedding anniversary by taking turns wearing either a saucy garter and stockings or a tank top and briefs?

The sheer (heh) joy our MLNPstars experience when getting dressed up in lingerie, and the gender-bending fun that sometimes ensues, tickles us in all the right ways. We love how dressing up as part of #realworldsex helps them go somewhere new — somewhere where gender fluidity reigns and they feel great in their bodies.

Virtual Fantasy Closet with Colin/Gray. Meow!

Recently, we were absolutely blown away by queer-owned lingerie company, Bluestockings Boutique, when they did a campaign where #realworld LGBTQA+ folks posed in cute and gender and body-affirming underthings. We think that Aerie’s decision not to photoshop models in their underwear campaigns is an admirable step toward embracing #realworldbodies in advertising, as is Mia Pielle Alpha‘s line of women’s basics that finally satisfies the desire/need for nude underwear that actually matches a more #realworld range of skin tones.

MLNP.tv would love to do a brand partnership with a like-minded lingerie company that’s daring enough to show their wares in #realworldsex action, worn by #realworldbodies! If you’re a brand that’s interested in this, or think you might know one, get in touch with cindy@mlnp.tv!

Finally, we couldn’t talk about people stripping down to their skivvies and getting real without mentioning the fabulous What’s Underneath Project, which showcases “how style is not the clothes you wear, but the unabashed spirit within.” We were thrilled that MLNP CEO, Cindy Gallop, took part in the project by showing us what’s underneath her glam attire.

How do you play with lingerie? We can’t get enough of folks dressing up to get down and hope you’ll submit your #dressedup #realworldsex, soon!

Written by Lea Rose Emery for BUSTLE. Originally published on June 15th, 2016.

Thought it was pretty obvious that mainstream porn is nothing like sex IRL? Not to everyone. In fact, most boys aged 11-16 who have viewed porn think it’s realistic, new research finds, as do nearly 40 percent of girls the same age. The research came from Middlesex University and was commissioned by the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) and the children’s commissioner. They surveyed 1,001 young people from 11-16, and also looked at online discussion forums and discussion groups. Over half of those surveyed had viewed pornography and, according to The Guardian, 53 percent of boys who viewed porn felt it was a realistic depiction of sex, while 39 percent of girls who viewed porn thought the images were realistic. That’s worrying. And the idea that mainstream porn may be shaping people how young people view sex is an issue.

“As the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, Cindy Gallop, first pointed out in her 2009 TED talk, our society’s inability to talk openly and honestly about sex combined with the ready availability of free hardcore porn online has led to porn becoming today’s default sex education in not a good way,” Sarah Beall, curator and community manager at MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, a website where users can share their #realworldsexvideos, tells Bustle. “The mission of MakeLoveNotPorn can be summed up in three words: talk about it. As in, don’t just talk to your children about sex but be prepared and willing to have a conversation that addresses how the sex you see in porn often isn’t the same as the sex people have in their everyday lives.”

What’s even more worrying is how a lot of children are being exposed to it — and the lack of sex education that accompanies it.

Head on over to BUSTLE to read the rest of this article!

Written by Nicole Hind for Unveiled Stories. Originally published on June 2nd, 2016.

I’ve been working in human services for about 15 years now, so the term ‘self-care’ is as familiar to me as vegemite and cheese sandwiches. I can’t tell you how many times I have been asked in workplaces how I ‘take care of myself’ or how many handouts we give out to help people remember to ‘take care of yourselves’. You all know what I am talking about: take a hot bath; write in your journal; do deep breathing meditation; go for a walk etc. etc. etc…

These things are all SUPER important, and it doesn’t hurt to be reminded once in a while to stop ‘doing stuff’ and just relax or exercise or heap love on yourself or just to get up and take a shower on those really bad days.

But the reality is there is no such thing as one size fits all. And some of the things that are considered ‘not taking care of yourself’ are in actual fact the exact right things for YOU.

So here’s an alternative ‘self-care’ list (and you won’t find ‘taking a hot bath’ anywhere).

Have sex.

Have wonderful consensual fulfilling sex with someone who loves and respects you and your body, and who
you love and respect. This person may not be someone you are in a committed relationship with, but they should be someone who absolutely adores you, who cares for you and your needs, can look you in the eye with love, and makes you feel good about yourself without any kind of empty hole or self-questioning. Have a damn good time.

Masturbate.

Using whatever help you need with your body type and whatever material turns you on (so long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else!) There are websites these days portraying sex that celebrates genuine diversity and is not misogynistic or violent featuring a variety of human-looking consenting adults, such as make love not porn where you know the people are real and enjoying themselves. Masturbation is an excellent form of anxiety-relief as well as helping you feel more in control of your own body and giving you a good idea of what turns you on. Make it an event even if you feel nervous.

Go read the rest of the suggestions for more creative ways to take care of yourself over at Unveiled Stories!

Written by MLNP CEO & founder, Cindy Gallop.

It’s that time again, when we look back at the past year, and forward to the coming one. And it’s January 2017 and we’re four years old this month! So I wanted to share with you the things we learned in 2016:

1. What we’re all about – social sex – is needed now more than ever.

Our mission at MLNP is very simple: to help make it easier for the world to talk about sex. When we can be open and honest about sex and owning our sexuality, we can teach and promote good sexual values and good sexual behavior and create a universal understanding of what those are in society, to ensure better sexual communication, interaction and relationships, and ultimately happier lives. 

2. We have the most amazing MakeLoveNotPornstar community.

Without you our fabulous MakeLoveNotPornstars, we are nothing. Throughout 2016 you continued to wow us with your generosity in sharing your sexual selves, and with how many more of you keep joining us from all around the world to celebrate the wonderful #realworldsex we all have in our #realworldlives. We welcomed 30 new MLNPstars this year, making our community 200-strong since launch. We’re thrilled to say that we published 131 new videos in 2016.

3. We have the most amazing MakeLoveNotPorn community, period.

We love you all. We love that you email us and tell us how MLNP has helped you and how much you support what we are doing, like Matt Storm’s moving post. We love that you are forgiving of the glitches and hiccups that come with a bootstrapping startup, we are so grateful for all your patience, belief and support.

4. We can make amazing things happen together, even with a tiny team.

MLNP is just me, MadamCurator Sarah Beall, Assistant Curator Ariel Martinez and part-time contract developer Lar van der Jagt – and I want to take this opportunity to thank Sarah, Ariel and Lar on behalf of all of us for their incredibly hard work, dedication and commitment throughout the whole of 2016.

5. It’s really, really hard to raise funding for a sextech startup.

I worked through 2016 to try and raise the funding we need to build out the full amazing user experience we really want all of you to have. I’m afraid I haven’t managed it yet. This Fast Company piece is a good summary of the challenges we face – with an entertaining headline.

Here are the things we plan to do in 2017:

1. Give you all a better experience.

Yes, our resources continue to be limited, but we are working hard on doing some things that will give you a more friction-free user experience – particularly those of you who we know have experienced issues registering credit cards/making payments, as per our explanation of why we make it so hard for you to give us your money. Watch this space!

2. Help the category to help ourselves.

When you have a world-changing startup like ours, you have to change the world to fit it, not the other way round. For the past few years I’ve been defining and championing the category MLNP operates in – sextech – in order to create more receptivity for what we’re doing.

The challenges we’ve faced trying to raise funding for MLNP made me realize that in order to get our own startup funded, we have to get the entire category funded. So as I announced at TheNextWeb conference in New York in November, I’m now working to raise the world’s first and only sextech fund: AllTheSky Holdings with a focus  (not exclusively) on female founders, who are creating some of the most innovative and disruptive ventures in sextech.

3. Scale the Social Sex Revolution – with your help.

We call ourselves the Social Sex Revolution with the emphasis on ‘social’, because at MLNP we’re pioneering a whole new category on the internet – social sex – to revolutionize sexual attitudes and behavior all around the world. We love that you’ve all joined us as Social Sex Revolutionaries, and we want to grow our movement as much as we can. So we were thrilled when Chandelier Creative invited us to spend a week at their Mermaid Ranch last summer. The Front filmed our team and MakeLoveNotPornstar gathering for a ‘Social Sex Revolution’ mini-documentary. Below are a few photos from a very special IRL experience that you can click on to view as a slideshow. The documentary will be launching in a few weeks and we’ll share it with you all when it does!

We’ve also just launched our first ever crowdfunding campaign – first ever because historically crowdfunding platforms have not embraced us, but happily iFundWomen, with its focus on female founders, had no such issues. We are so grateful to those of you who have already supported us here and welcome all further support you can give.

So our plan in 2017 is to break down some more of those pesky barriers that face sextech pioneers, in order to build out and deliver the really great MLNP social sex experience we want to give all of you – because we are so inspired and motivated by the incredible support we get from you our amazing community, every single day. The fact we’re still here, four years on, in the face of considerable obstacles, is because of you.

We can’t thank you enough.

Cindy, Sarah, Ariel, Lar

Our Montreal-based Madam Curator, Sarah, is looking for Montreal or NYC-based volunteers to assist with community management of MakeLoveNotPorn.com and “in-house” editing of our social SFW content.

The ideal candidate(s) are highly self-motivated with great communication and organizational skills and a passion for spreading the MakeLoveNotPorn message. Attention to detail and a strong interest in mastering the behind the scenes work that contributes to keeping a sextech start-up running are a must.

The majority of this work will be done remotely and independently, with some of the time spent working alongside Madam Curator. This is a great opportunity for a student or recent graduate to contribute to something they feel passionate about. The right candidate(s) are those who’ll dazzle us so much with their commitment and skill that we’ll have no choice but to hire them down the line!

We hate that we’re not yet in a place where we can pay more staff. We’re a tiny, bootstrapping team with currently only 1 person paid full time and 2 people working part time (Cindy isn’t paid for the work she does as founder and CEO). As the forward-thinking venture that we are, we’re always looking for the right people to add to our team when the time, and more importantly – funding – comes. We’re proud to say that assistant curator, Ariel, started out as an unpaid intern and has now worked with us paid for 2 years.

Hours: 2-5 hrs/week

Community manager responsibilities

• Monitoring traffic to MakeLoveNotPorn.com and filing reports.

• Monitoring and responding to comments on MLNP.com.

• Occasional online outreach and promotion using Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook.

Video editor responsibilities

• Basic editing of SFW videos to post on social media channels.

• Creation of original SFW content to post on social media.

• Occasional editing related to public screenings.

Requirements

• Must be Montreal or NYC-based.

• Must meet or exceed expectations regarding self-motivation, organization and communication. You have experience prioritizing tasks and taking the workload of team members into account when doing so.

• Must demonstrate passion and familiarity with MLNP.tv and its mission.

• Community manager: familiarity with or strong interest in Google analytics, experience with reddit a huge plus.

• Video editor: familiarity with or strong interest in creating videos for social media platforms such as Instagram, YouTube, etc.

• Must be available 5hrs/week on a consistent schedule and be comfortable working independently within a deadline-oriented context that sometimes requires flexibility around when hours are completed.

• Must be 100% reliable – you are the kind of person who always shows up or communicates instantly if they can’t.

Assets

• For both: some experience and/or a strong interest in community management, social media marketing and data collection/analysis.

Interested candidates: please send an email outlining relevant experience and skills and explaining why you want to be our community manager/video editor to Sarah@makelovenotporn.tv.

Written by Madam Curator, Sarah Beall.

Hello darlings,

I’m so thrilled to announce that the 15 min SFW documentary MakeLoveNotPorn: The Social Sex Revolution has finally arrived! This project was a labour of love for many people, and one particularly close to my heart. Read on to hear the story behind how the MLNP team and MLNPstars Efi & Walter, Colin/Gray, and FeverDream ended up together capturing the #socialsexrevolution at Mermaid Ranch!

The entirely SFW long trailer for MakeLoveNotPorn: The Social Sex Revolution

In late winter of last year, the MLNP.tv team began working on a very special project. Imagine our delight when Jason Harler of Chandelier Creative reached out to Cindy asking if our team would like to spend a week at Mermaid Ranch working on a project of our choice as part of their Summer of Sex and Love series! One look at the dreamy photos of the ranch and we were hooked. Now we had to decide what kind of project we wanted to complete. With such a beautiful space at our disposal we wanted to create something equally beautiful, and really dig into the transformative power of sex and love.

We took a lot of photos!

As Madam Curator of MLNP.tv, I’ve been uniquely privileged to witness the revolutionary and often life-changing impact sharing #realworldsex has had on our MLNPstars. Since going live in public beta in January 2013, I’ve received a steady flow of testimonials from MLNPstars of all walks of life talking about how the process of capturing their everyday #realworldsexlives has helped them communicate better in their relationships, understand their sexuality more, and given them more confidence asking for what they really want in bed, all while embracing their #realworldbodies in all their messsyawesomehumanness. You can’t make this stuff up — it’s better than we could have hoped when we were concepting this tiny, bootstrapping #socialsex experiment.

From my previous work creating and curating feminist smut, I had a hunch that the entire process of talking about, capturing, and sharing #realworldsex would be enriching for our MLNPstars. And my heart flutters anew every time these brave #socialsexrevolutionaries share their stories. What I didn’t totally anticipate was the transformative effect curating #realworldsex would have on me, and the close relationships I would end up having with our MLNPstars.

When you think about it, the best relationships are built on trust and great communication, and MLNP is a venture built pretty much entirely on those things. Well, those things and vision, grit, and determination in the face of a crazy number of obstacles, but I digress.

Our MLNPstars put their trust in MLNP and Ariel and myself when they submit their most intimate moments for review (!) and we in turn treat them with the utmost gratitude and respect because, this is not hyperbole, they are our superheroes. Without them and their incredible generosity in vulnerability, we would not exist.

Waiting in anticipation of Efi & Walter’s arrival!

In addition to the trust and deep lines of communication established through often years-long email communications and social media #funtimes, MLNP takes the opportunity to meet up IRL with our MLNPstars when a few of us happen to be in the same city at the same time. To date I’ve shared cocktails or at least chatted in person with Colin/Gray, Janira Wolfe, Modesty Ablaze, lovesurfsing, MrandMrsLau, Rickat, Dale Cooper, bzandgloria, VonBettie, Lily Cade, Fox+Aphrodite, Andy+Becky, xxxotter, SaulofHearts and Violet+Rye. Cindy’s friendships with Danny Wylde, Lily LaBeau and Lily Cade was what introduced them to us originally, and one of our former interns made a point of grabbing tacos with Efi & Walter while on vacation in Mexico City.

Side note: Janira Wolfe actually found out about MLNP from MLNPstars AllenandtheJean. More proof that the future of sex is social. Talk about it!

In person gatherings with our MLNPstars are always a joyful occasion, and have the feel of old friends convening for a much needed catch-up. When I met Janira Wolfe at the documentary premiere last week she said to me, “You’re exactly what I was expecting. When I first saw you tonight, I forgot that I don’t actually know you.” To which I replied that well, we do know each other! The thing is that our bond — based on trust and communication and the values of MLNP — is deeper than one might expect given it started with her uploading #realworldsex videos through an online form.

And these were the things I wanted to capture and bring to life at Mermaid Ranch. I wanted to bring together our MLNPstars and manifest the experience of MLNP on the spot through conversations, fun, and yes, filming on-location #realworldsex. We are so grateful to Chandelier Creative for supporting this vision and to Thalia Mavros and her crew at The Front for capturing it so completely and in such a stunning way. And, we’re bowled over with appreciation for the MLNPstars who joined us at the ranch — Efi & Walter, FeverDream, and Colin/Gray — our #socialsexrevolutionaries who brought all of the courage, vulnerability, trust, and sexy to our time together.

MLNP is bucking conventional wisdom that says that interacting online is making people feel more isolated. It’s challenging the idea that sharing sex videos online is an impersonal act that trivializes sex, and it’s proof that sharing and watching #realworldsex has the power to transform lives and relationships for the better.

Holy energy shift! Ariel and I feeling the love (and exhaustion) on the last day of our three day shoot

MakeLoveNotPorn is the #socialsexrevolution, and I truly believe that it creates more love in the world. A revolutionary, lasting, and empowering love that has the potential to change the world for the better.

One last trailer for the road! Now please go watch MakeLoveNotPorn: The Social Sex Revolution in it’s full 15 min SFW glory, here! You can read what our MLNPstars have to say about their experiences at the ranch, here and here. And you can rent the #realworldsex videos shot at Mermaid Ranch, here.

We are Constance and Eric, photographers of human sexuality.

About 8 years ago we came up with a concept to abstractly photograph couples having sex; real couples, real sex, all manner of variation. The idea was to render down our subjects to just movement, shape, and interaction; eliminating all labels such as age, orientation, gender, and so on. In doing this, the universal gestures defining human expressions of intimacy began to emerge and how that connects us became evident.

Constance and Eric

About a year into that we started getting calls from couples (and more) wanting to commission us for private shoots. Fast forward ahead 7 years and we have been commissioned to shoot a dazzling variety of sexual expression. 45th anniversary sex, orgies, first time, wedding consummations (one in front of a large group), outdoor lovemaking at 10,000 ft above sea level in the Rockies, D/s play, veterans returning home, you name it, we have shot it. To this day we are still amazed at how the ways to express intimacy are seemingly endless yet, the heart of sexuality still remains intensely human and unifying.

The whole core foundation of MLNP resonates an authenticity with us that we have witnessed firsthand from the hundreds of bedrooms (and kitchens, and dungeons, and stages, and mountaintops, and…) that we have been invited into.

There is no template for sex, no script, and certainly no editing. Pornography is not normal sex in the way that fast food is not normal food, it is fine to indulge but, a steady diet of it will cause immeasurable problems. Sex simply cannot be defined by an industry, it is defined by people. All too often that is forgotten and the limiting cliches of porn are mistaken as real which, in the absence of honest sex education, can pose a real risk to our society.

We have had clients who tried to perform according to what they learned from porn. During the multiple breaks we take during a session, we try to encourage them to make love for themselves, not for the camera. If they are able to break out from the unconscious conditioning of porn, without fail, every single time, those images turn out to be the best from the shoot.

There is a sexiness in authenticity that cannot be faked or staged, we see the proof in our work and we see it in the library of #realworldsex on MLNP.tv.

After close to a decade of still photography only, we have just begun to branch out into the moving image and are looking forward to contributing to the important, and sexy work that is going on at MLNP.

XOXO,
Constance & Eric
http://constanceanderic.com/

In my previous life as a mainstream porn script writer — right before becoming Madam Curator — one of my fave ways to slack on the job while looking like I was working and “doing research” was to log in to the company account for Vivid and look at the arty, punky porn in their “alt” section. Here, in a small section of 2011 #pornworld was where I could find streaming videos that reminded me of gay art house filmmaker Bruce La Bruce and the feminist porn rebels who shot weird shit on camcorders in the 80s and 90s, whose work I could only find in my university’s well-stocked Film Studies resource department.

As a performer and director, Kimberly Kane definitely stood out. There were a few teen scenes with her performing that I could watch on the site I worked for, but those followed the same old script. The porn she directed for Vivid Alt was gritty and strange, and while it didn’t necessarily turn me on — the scenes often involved a lot of spit and runny eyeliner — they definitely had a distinct aesthetic, especially in the intro teasing scenes before the usual series of sex acts unfolded in the same order for the same amount of time. Think riot grrrl, or a Courtney Love lookalike having rough sex in a Berlin nightclub.

She had style, and I admired her.

 

It was sweet and understandable to hear Kimberly express some of the same reservations other MLNPstars often have — will anyone really want to watch this? Will they be bored? Will I be awkward and keep moving out of frame? What is it like to not perform for the camera when you’re so used to doing (or seeing) that? 

At MLNP, we want to MakeDisabledLoveNotPorn! This intro by Eva is the first in a series of posts where disabled folks take up space on our blog and talk about what it’s like to be a disabled sexual being. If you’re a disabled person interested in sharing your #realworldsex on MLNP, or sharing your story on our blog, please email Sarah@mlnp.tv. 

Hey, I’m super excited to be working with Make Love Not Porn! My name is Eva and I have been in the sex ed field for over 15 years. I didn’t get into it because I wanted to help people or I was a teacher. Rather, it was because I didn’t find any applicable information for me when I was a teenager. I have cerebral palsy which affects my entire body. I use a wheelchair to get around and I’m non-verbal, so I spell out what I want to say on a letter board with a laser pointer on my hat. So in my late teens, I was looking for information about how to incorporate my disability into my sex. I also identify as queer, so that’s a whole other layer. After calling many disability organizations and asking if they have any information about disability and sex and either being told no or being hung up on, I decided to write a handbook. It talks about how to find queer-friendly aides, how to talk to your partner about your disability, how to adapt sex toys, and how to masturbate if you need assistance. Through this book, I was able to travel the country giving workshops on sex and disability. It was an awesome experience as I had people in their 50s coming to me and saying this was the first time they talked about sex ever! Now, I teach online classes on the amazing platform O.school and I’m available for private consultations. If you want to learn more, check out my website: Cripping Up Sex With Eva.

Follow Eva on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter to see her latest updates.

Contract Developer

MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP) is looking for a brilliant contract developer to help build out the next version of makelovenotporn.tv.

The ideal applicant is a seasoned engineer who can moving quickly and meet deadlines. You should have diverse experience up and down the web stack, including work with Ember.js or Golang.

The right candidate is someone who will dazzle us with their professionalism and skill such that we’ll have no choice but to hire you full-time. For now this will be a paid three month engagement with the opportunity for renewal. (Tentative start date: September 1st.)

What you get to do:

• Build the tech that drives the Social Sex Revolution
• Own and deliver several clearly-defined features
• Work with open and honest people who care about doing great work

What you need to do:

• Be NY-based. (NYC-based candidates are preferred, but remote opportunities will be considered for strong, self-motivated candidates with proven delivery).
• Demonstrate passion and familiarity with MLNP and its mission.
• Have experience working in a startup environment looking to scale rapidly.
• Have experience building with Ember.js and/or Golang.

What you will get from us:

• The experience of scaling a company with a diverse, majority-female team
• Receive #sextech and tech event perks
• Grow a professional network within the #sextech and NY tech startup community
• Access to the MLNP team (Cindy Gallop will tweet about you)
• Sometimes you’ll get to work with a very cute dog

If you’re interested please apply with something demonstrating the technical achievements you’re most proud of. This can be an open-source library on Github, a personal portfolio or website(s), startup you built/worked on, or a write-up of a project you were or are a part of.  Please email your resume and supporting materials to jobs@makelovenotporn.com with the subject line “Contract Developer”. The deadline for submissions is August 12, 2018.

Contract Designer

MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP) is looking for a contract designer to come up with and execute highly innovative ways of manifesting our brand in the real world.

The right, highly creative and imaginative designer will be responsible not only for extending our brand identity across promotional and event materials and merchandise, but also for ideating and designing unique ways to enable MakeLoveNotPorn to be visible and socially shareable  in reallife (IRL) as the badge brand of the Social Sex Revolution.

Please note you do not need to be located in NYC. We are open to a remote working engagement for the right candidate.

If you’d like to use your design superpowers to change the world through sex, please submit your resume and a link to your portfolio or website to jobs@makelovenotporn.com. Include the subject line Contract Designer. The deadline for submissions is July 30, 2018.

Creator Community Assistant

MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP) is looking for a team member to assist with growing our MakeLoveNotPornstar community.

The ideal candidate is self-motivated with superior communication and organizational skills.  Attention to detail and the ability to work independently to deliver tangible results are a must.

The right candidate is someone who will dazzle us with their professionalism and skill such that we’ll have no choice but to hire you full-time. For now this will be a paid three month engagement with the opportunity for renewal.

What you get to do

• Organize and follow-up work related to creator video submissions.
• Research engagement options on platforms like Tumblr, Reddit, Fetlife, Medium, etc.
• Manage our editorial calendar including collaboration with community members,  marketing email development and tracking creator earnings & payouts.
• Manage delivery of small to midsize projects including oversight of creator community growth targets and reporting requirements.

What you need to do:

• Be NY-based.
• Demonstrate passion and familiarity with MLNP, its mission and for supporting and expanding our highly engaged creator community.
• Prove experience prioritizing tasks and multi-tasking with extended team.
• Have extensive experience with Reddit and Tumblr
• Have deep experience with Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, WordPress, & Google Suite.
• Have great experience writing and delivering content for multiple social media platforms.
• Some experience and a strong interest in: email marketing and data collection/analysis.

What you will get from us:

• Learn startup culture and what it’s like to scale a company with a majority female team
• Receive #sextech and tech event perks
• Grow a professional network within the #sextech and NY tech startup community
• Access to the MLNP team (Cindy Gallop will tweet about you.)
• College credit can be arranged
• Possible ability to work remotely / have a flexible schedule
• Sometimes you’ll get to work with a very cute dog

If you’re interested please email your resume and a cover letter outlining your relevant experience and why you’d be a great addition to the team to jobs@makelovenotporn.com. Include the subject line Creator Community Assistant. The deadline for submissions is July 25, 2018.

Social Media Assistant

MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP) is looking for a team member to assist with our daily social media and digital content creation and management.

The ideal applicant is extremely comfortable and fluent with the front and backends of all the social media networks and platforms.  You must be creative, communicative, detail oriented and sex positive.

The right candidate is someone who will dazzle us with their professionalism and skill such that we’ll have no choice but to hire you full-time. For now this will be a paid three month engagement with the opportunity for renewal.

What you get to do:

• Source and create safe for work (SFW) content to post that is on-brand
• Follow, like and propose engagement with other relevant platform channels
• Propose and create original SFW content to increase audience engagement
• Maintain the MLNP blog as directed
• Assist with development and execution of MLNP events
• Complete data and performance analysis on social media channels and posts
• Grow each platform’s audience over the course of your tenure

What you need to do:

• Be NY-based
• Demonstrate passion and familiarity with MLNP and its mission
• Prove experience prioritizing tasks and multi-tasking with wider team
• Have extensive experience with Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and Google Suite
• Have excellent experience writing and delivering content on the above-mentioned social media networks and platforms plus Tumblr, WordPress and YouTube

What you will get from us:

• Learn startup culture and what it’s like to scale a company with a majority female team
• Receive #sextech and tech event perks
• Grow a professional network within the #sextech and NY tech startup community
• Access to the MLNP team (Cindy Gallop will tweet about you.)
• College credit can be arranged
• Possible ability to work remotely / have a flexible schedule
• Sometimes you’ll get to work with a very cute dog

If you’re interested please email your resume and a cover letter outlining your relevant experience and why you’d be a great addition to the team to jobs@makelovenotporn.com. Include the subject line Social Media Assistant.  The deadline for  submissions is July 25, 2018.

“Worry”

After recently turning 30 years young, I have been thinking about finding love and building a relationship a great deal lately. I’ve never had the opportunity to meet someone in the past and it’s not as easy for me like my friends since physically meeting people is tough. I would be keen to do so, despite the logistical and perceptional challenges.

It is very difficult for me to form relationships, as meeting people is hard when you are a severely disabled wheelchair user.

I find this is often due to the complexities of accessibility and logistics of meeting people spontaneously. Not to mention that it is hard to go anywhere without my support workers, making it even more challenging to form relationships. Also, despite being fearless and very comfortable going up to people to say hello, I am concerned that the opposite sex may feel sorry for me and not see me as relationship material — the fear seems to take over. I strongly feel people often cannot see past my wheelchair, rather than the hard-working, interesting and humorous person that I am.

Not only do I have the challenge of finding someone who will accept my disability, similarly my culture and Southeast Asian background would have a bearing, with parental expectations to end up with someone from the same culture — but I’m lucky enough that my immediate family just wants me to be happy so I doubt this would cause much conflict in my case; and although my family and friends have their own beliefs, I think if you are happy with someone that is what is most important.

It wouldn’t matter for me if my partner had a different background so long as they accept me for who I am.

And if I do somehow form a relationship and wish to have children with that person, the probability of me being a genetic carrier of neuromuscular disease is high. A doctor told me years ago that my siblings have a 66 percent probability of being a carrier (though this doesn’t affect them from having a relationship or having a family themselves), and people may use this as a reason not to form relationships with disabled people. However, a lot has changed from the past and new treatments (and knowledge about genetics) may be available but more needs to be done to inform disabled people like myself of what the reality is; even if that’s just providing information and greater understanding.

Quite often the media tries to show what is “acceptable” in disability dating, but it usually ends up showing people who are having difficulty and are classed as “undateable‟ or “freaks” This is wrong. I truly feel that just because you’re disabled it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you. On the other hand, I feel that able-bodied people should not be frowned upon or thought of taking advantage when in a relationship with a disabled person as well. Society finds it hard to accept anything they don’t understand, but if disabled people are able and wish to form a relationship they should be supported to do so.

This is where I think the creative industries (filmmakers, directors, writers, artists and designers, for example) can have a huge positive impact in changing the media and general public’s attitude towards disabled people who want to form relationships. Also, I think it is fine for some disabled people to say they want to have a relationship with a sex worker or something (which the media seems keen to highlight), as they’re finding it hard to form relationships. Personally, I would prefer not to do this because I don’t think it is a healthy way to build a relationship — though I acknowledge that those who do make that choice maybe not be looking to build a relationship. I would rather meet someone who I can share my life with.

It is society and the media that needs to accept that as a disabled person I have as much right to fall in love and form a relationship as my peers — and not apply arbitrary pressures on those in such relationships. I think, there needs to be much more candid but unprejudiced awareness with regards to disabled people, dating and relationships.

It’s extremely important to have these discussions but to not frame them in such headline-grabbing ways as “freaks” and “undateable”. I would also be delighted to see more relationships in which one or both partners are disabled represented on television. This is how norms are reset and challenged.

Anyway, I’m done worrying about it and I am going to be proactive further to go out and about so I can meet someone this year to just make it happen. Hopefully, my 30th will be an even greater incredible adventure that’s filled with love and forming a relationship too. Ladies, here I come. ¡Hasta Luego —until later!

The igniter of hearts creatively, a creative collaborator and adventurer, Sulaiman Khan is the Founder and Chief Purpose Officer of ThisAbility, the network that supports and celebrates creative disabled talent. He is also an independent consultant, speaker and writer on Divergent Leadership, Creativity, and Inclusivity + Advocacy.

Follow him on twitter @Kinectricity.

Aria Vega

By MakeLoveNotPorn Ambassador, Aria Vega. Aria is an Atlanta-based sex writer and educator doing her part to build a more sex-positive world. On her blog, Your Heavenly Body, she reviews pleasure products and writes about sexuality, bodies, and trauma. 

Sex positivity, the movement to free sexuality from shame and stigma, is becoming increasingly mainstream. That’s a beautiful thing! It means the average person has better access than ever to pleasure- and evidence-based information about their bodies. But this access alone is not enough.

Our understanding of sexuality, as individuals and as a society, is inextricably linked to other facets of our identity. When those aren’t accounted for, the image is incomplete, and progress is halted. That’s where MakeLoveNotPornstars of color come in. The more Black and brown bodies that appear on MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, the more accurate the picture of #realworldsex becomes, and every one of us will be better off for it.

5 ways showing people of color (POC) having #realworldsex is vital to the #SocialSexRevolution:

1. Sex positive images of non-white bodies are lacking in pop culture.

You probably didn’t need me to tell you this. The vast majority of non-white sex depicted in movies, television, and pornography is created by and for a white gaze. This creates a warped image of our personhood, and fuels ignorance.

I feel like I can always tell when a sex scene between Black people was actually written and directed by one of us. That’s when our bodies are treated with reverence and respect, free of ugly stereotypes and condescension. These moments are few and far in between.

While we wait for more people of color to be represented behind Hollywood cameras, we can point our smartphone cameras at ourselves. Which brings me to my next point…

2. If we don’t do it, no one will.

As people of color, it’s up to us to produce the images that center our pleasure and best reflect our humanity. We are absolutely entitled to take up space in the world, and we don’t need to beg the powers that be for access to it.

With the ubiquity of smartphones that allow us to both snap and share our lives on the spot, it’s never been easier claim that space. Since you have full creative control over your #realworldsex video, you can be sure that it’s shown through your own lens – literally and figuratively.

3. It can help us educate ourselves.

Due to systemic issues, communities of color are particularly vulnerable to inadequate or misleading information about sexual health and pleasure. As a result, we experience disproportionate rates of STI/HIV transmission, unplanned pregnancies, and sexual assault.

At the moment, the federal government isn’t doing much about these problems. In fact, many lawmakers are doing everything they can to reverse decades’ worth of gains in these areas. Fortunately, #realworldsex videos can help with this too.

On MakeLoveNotPorn, it’s very common to see things like barrier usage (such as condoms, gloves, and dental dams) and healthy communication before, during, and after sex. There’s even a whole #condomhot video category for safer sex inspiration. If people of color get to see people who look like us normalizing these behaviors, the benefits can spread fast and far.

4. We need to see ourselves reclaiming bodily autonomy.

Throughout American history, non-white bodies have been subjected to unfathomable degrees of subjugation and brutality. Black Americans in particular have historically had little to no bodily autonomy. This, of course, due to the horrors of slavery and the systemic abuses that followed it into the present day.

The trauma of our lineage doesn’t need to define us. We can help heal these wounds by reclaiming ownership of our bodies and prioritizing pleasure. This can help us restore and maintain our strength and vitality to go on fighting for a more just world.

5. The rest of the world needs to see us too.

As affirming and validating as it is for people of color to see ourselves on-screen, it’s not just about us. These images are crucial in humanizing us to our white peers. I wish we lived in a world where our mere existence was enough to penetrate ignorance, but we’re not quite there yet. Once again, video content can help with that.

Images have a lot of power in determining how we’re perceived by others. When done right, images have the potential to bridge the empathy gap between privileged and marginalized groups. With MLNP’s platform, we are allowed unprecedented access into each other’s most intimate and vulnerable moments. The opportunities here are tremendous.

MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is actively seeking more creators of color to demonstrate the power behind this type of representation. As with all other social movements, your voices and images are vital to the Social Sex Revolution!

For more information on shooting, submission, and everything in between, please get in touch! You can reach MLNP’s Curator, Sarah, at Sarah@mlnp.tv. You can also check out our How-to’s section for tips and tricks.

Follow Aria Vega on twitter @heavenlyav  and read more of Aria’s writing on her blog YourHeavenlyBody.

To see videos by more MLNPstars of color, check out our MakeBlackLoveNotPorn edition.

Welcome to the MakeLoveNotPornstar directory! Here at MLNP, our team is working hard to build a search function. To fill the gap until then and to help you find what you’re looking for, we’ve created this handy alphabetical guide to all of our MLNPstars!

Table of Contents

A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

A

Albedrio

Albedrio loves sharing his alfresco #metime while his partner captures the moment.

ALEX-ANNA

ALEX-ANNA are an insatiable American couple in their early 40s who enjoy lots of foreplay and long, sensual explorations.

AllenandtheJean

AllenandtheJean are a married couple who are all about indulgence and trying new things, like light kink and bisexual exploration. They enjoy putting a cinematic polish on their #realworldsex.

AndreLynn

Andrelynn are married parents in their 30s who found sexual liberation after years of religious repression. Their videos are cinematic, sensual, and candid, with lots of playful banter and laughter.

angeno23

Angeno23 are married parents who’ve had the hots for each other since the met in high school. Their videos are intensely passionate and expressive with lots of uniquely-them banter. They love lingerie and spending hours making love.

Annie Ochs

Annie Ochs is a queer femme artist from Canada who loves showing off all the way she seduces herself.

AprilShowers

April Showers are an earthy married couple who love getting it on whenever and wherever the mood strikes, including in their greenhouse and on top of their newly constructed shed.

Asphyxia<3Danny

Asphyxia<3Danny are crazy in love 20-somethings who enjoy intense, sometimes kinky #realworldsex, as well as lots of laughs. They met on set when they were both adult performers, and share the sex they have off-set as a #realworld couple.

AthleticGuy1364

AthleticGuy1364 is a young man who likes sports, renting videos on MLNP, and sharing his own #metime adventures.

Audio Smut

Audio Smut are a collective of women who share videos of  themselves off in the real world — with vibrators, butt plugs, and in public.

B

Beejoo

Beejoo are a 50-something couple who travel the world and became ‘accidental swingers.’ Their first video was shot in a treehouse in Thailand.

borninheat

borninheat are an insatiable Belgian couple who consider intensely passionate #realworldsex a huge part of their everyday adventures. Their videos are cinematic and a bit kinky.

Bruddazhang0

Bruddazhang0 shares his #metime as a way of slowing down and appreciating his sexuality.

C

Carlotta+Mr.F

Carlotta+Mr.F are a hip couple who lead a secretly kinky life behind closed doors. Their videos are cinematic, usually with lots of lingerie and role-play.

colingray

Colin and Gray are a hipster couple who enjoy creating playful trailers to introduce their steamy and loving #realworldsex.

Corkle

Corkle is a free-spirited young woman who captures her #metime with the same frequency that other millennials take selfies.

couplenextdoor

couplenextdoor are a married couple who enjoy sensual, passionate #realworldsex. Their videos are cinematic.

CSITB

CSITB (or CoupleSexIsTheBest) are a married couple who enjoy filming husband giving wife #LickJobs from her POV.

D

DannyWylde

Danny Wylde is a former porn performer who shares his #metime as a way of reconnecting with his sexuality post-porn.

Desertdelight

Desertdelight are married parents with undeniable sexual chemistry. Their videos are candid, sensual, and passionate.

DirtyPair

DirtyPair are a queer couple fond of marathon play sessions where each takes turn being in control. They are loving, sweet and full of energy.

doctom

doctom is a German doctor who shares his anonymous #metime.

Doris_Dawn

Doris_Dawn are a Hungarian couple in their 50s who haven’t been able to keep their hands off each other since they first got together in their late teens. Sometimes zany, always candid, these two are prolific life-long lovers.

E

EAHeartXO

EAHeartXO (or ExbitionistAtHeart) is a polyamorous woman in her 50s who enjoys filming her #hotelroom adventures with her younger lover.

Efi & Walter

Efi & Walter are an insatiable couple from Mexico City who take advantage of their sunny surroundings through lots of outdoor #realworldsex! When indoors, their cats also make regular appearances.

Ela Darling

Ela Darling is a porn performer who shares the #realworldsex she has off-set with her #realworld lovers. She enjoys a bit of goofiness during sex and isn’t afraid to laugh ’till she comes.

El_and_BSal

El_andBSal are a very much in love couple who can’t get enough of each other but don’t take themselves too seriously. Expect lots of giggles and intense orgasms.

escalona

escalona is a young woman who enjoys quiet, secretive #realworldsex with her boyfriend while her family is in the other room.

ezdoesit

ezdoesit is a sexually adventurous and earthy soul who’s shared her #realworldsex before, during, and after pregnancy.

F

FeverDream

FeverDream is a self-described queer, fat babe of color who shares her sensual and orgasmic self-explorations on MLNP.

Fin

Fin are a dynamic duo who enjoy intense eye contact and rhythmic motions. Their videos are cinematic.

fox+aphrodite

fox+aphrodite are a young couple whose sweet, tender times will make you develop an instant crush.

H

hand2rod

hand2rod is a gay man who enjoys getting adventurous with his #metime, whether it’s with a special costume or in a daring outdoor locale.

hannable

hannable are a pair of madly-in-love redheads who enjoy dressing up during their energetic and sometimes #kinky #realworldsex.

havingfun

havingfun are a married couple from London who relish coming home from work and having a good roll in the hay.

Honey & Sweetie

Honey & Sweetie are a married couple and parents of a toddler who use filming their #realworldsex as a way to reconnect whenever they have a rare quiet moment.

honeyandbear

honeyandbear are a bohemian couple from South Africa who know how to enjoy the good things in life. And that definitely includes hours and hours of passionate love making.

houndsoflove

houndsoflove is a young Irish woman who shares her quiet #metime.

I

itaka

Itaka are a sexually ravenous Spanish couple currently living and loving in France.

J

JanirasLovers

Janiraslovers is the account of Janira Wolfe, a sexually voracious young woman who shares videos with her lucky playmates, as well as of her own orgasmic #metime.

jessandrett

Jessandrett are an adventurous couple who have shot their #realworldsex overlooking the Grand Canyon!

joevb3

Joevb3 is a married man in his 50s who enjoys capturing his sensual #metime.

K

karaprice

Kara Price is a former pornstar who makes videos for MLNP in order to express what she finds truly #realworldsexy.

KimberlyKane

Kimberly Kane is a pornstar who shares the #realworldsex she has off-set with her real life boyfriend, Drew. Expect laughs, adorableness, and very skillful bedroom moves.

L

l.m.n.o.p.

l.m.n.o.p. is a charming gentleman who enjoys chatting during this playful #metime.

Leafless-Trunk

Leafless-Trunk is a young man from Germany whose everyday experiences drive his erotic imagination, and inspire him to capture his #metime.

LilyandDanny

Lily Labeau and Danny Wylde were one of our very first MakeLoveNotPornstar couples ever! Both porn performers, they relished the opportunity to share the romantic #realworldsex they had off-set. Their videos are true MLNP classics!

LilyandJess

LilyandJess are lesbian lovers whose incredible connection caused them to fall hard and fast. Their videos feature the #realworldsex of real world pornstar and MLNPstar, Lily Cade. Watch as Lily falls in love in real time.

LilyandKara

Kara Price is a retired pornstar who decided to share her off-set #realworldsex with real-life friend, Lily Cade. LilyandKara’s debut video features them giving a masterclass on how to have safe, pleasurable anal sex IRL!

lilycade

Lily Cade is a gold star lesbian pornstar who started sharing her off-set lesbian #realworldsex, as a way of getting to do what she does best — have passionate, unscripted, multi-orgasmic sex with as many women as possible!

Luc & Lucie

Luc & Lucie are a French couple who’ve enjoyed capturing, among other things, French #RealWorldPeriodSex and anniversary love making in a Paris #hotelroom.

Lust Influx

Lust Influx are a couple from California whose #realworldsexlife takes them to new heights of pleasure and transcendence.

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Modesty Ablaze

Modesty Ablaze is a 50-something lady from London who shares videos of the #realworldsex she has with her husband and many lovers. Expect hotel rooms, rope play, plenty of laughs and oodles of pleasure. A great glimpse into the sex life of a #realworld couple who enjoy a swinging lifestyle.

mooboo

mooboo is a young woman who doesn’t get a ton of time to herself these days, so always makes the most of it when she does!

mrandmrslau

mrandmrslau are a UK-based couple who love stealing moments to themselves in the midst of their busy daily life.

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NikkiHearts

NikkiHearts is a lesbian pornstar and porn director who shares the #realworldsex she has off-set with her wife, Leigh Raven.

Nukhu Sirrush

Nukhu Sirrush is a MLNPstar who created their own account after having so much fun filming their #realworldsex with MLNPstar, Richard Coyote. Nukhu is playful and full of energy!

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Obadiah27

Obadiah27 are a married couple who began filming their #realworldsex on a VHS camcorder given to them as a wedding gift in the mid-1980s. Their videos are sensual and ravenous, while offering a glimpse of body hair styles that were popular at the time.

older&hotter

older&hotter are a deeply in love senior couple who love nothing more than spending hours making love and covering every inch of the other with kisses. Their videos are filled with energy and lust!

Olivia+LazFyre

Olivia+LazFyre are a married couple who run their own fetish porn site and heard about MLNP from fellow pornstar and MLNPstar, Kimberly Kane. Sharing the #realworldsex they have off-set has been liberating for these two, and well, we love it when they let loose!

ooohlala

ooohlala is an athletic young woman who captures her #metime while fantasizing about her #realworldlovers.

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Parrot99

The deep connection between Ms. Quote and Parrot allowed them to reconnect many years after they initially met. Sharing a passionate long distance relationship, their videos showcase playful, passionate senior #realworldsex.

Passion-Rex

Passion-Rex is a young man who enjoys tantric #metime where he often orgasms without ejaculation.

professorstone

professorstone are a couple whose sexual chemistry is undeniable. A bit kinky and a lot intense, they’re great communicators who know how to drive each other wild.

ProxyPaige

Proxy Paige is a real world porn performer who started sharing her #realworldsex on MLNP after hearing about the Social Sex Revolution from friend Lily Labeau. Proxy’s first video is sweet and sun drenched.

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rawoutdoors

rawoutdoors are a nature worshipping couple who met at a crystal shop. Their videos are filled with starry-eyed young lust.

RealHuman810

RealHuman810 is a young man who overcame a dependency on porn and now shares his #metime on MLNP as a way of celebrating his newfound sexuality and desire to MakeLoveNotPorn.

Redfox

Redfox are an Irish married couple who enjoy dressing up and having fun! Expect lingerie, toys, and lots of creative role play.

Richard Coyote

Richard Coyote is a queer sexual adventurer who shares videos of his creative #metime and cute, communicative #realworldsexploits with his #realworld lovers.

rickat

rickat are an insatiable married couple who found that sharing their #realworldsex on MLNP led to what they termed a SEXPLOSION. Their videos are sensual and cinematic.

RionRhodes

Rion Rhodes is the partner of MLNPstar Von Bettie, aka Valentine. Together, Rion and Valentine sharing intense lesbian #realworldsex and love trying out new toys.

rjd1123

rjd1123 are an American/French duo who captured their #hotelroom #realworldsex while on vacation in New Orleans.

RoseOne

RoseOne is a university student from France who shares her #gushing #metime on MLNP. Expect multiple orgasms, singing, and dancing!

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saulofhearts

saulofhearts is a polyamorous person who enjoys capturing their #metime in various locations from the shower to the hills of Los Angeles.

Scody

Scody are an adventurous Australian couple who share their spontaneous moments of #realworldbliss.

Seb+Juliana

Seb+Juliana are a married couple from Ireland who share a passion for lingerie, toys, and going all out on romantic getaways.

SexKilledTheCat

SexKilledTheCat is a young man who shot a video for a long distance lover and decided to share it on MLNP.

sexnormal

sexnormal is a young woman who enjoys fully clothed #metime! Her debut video is a must-watch to see how you don’t necessarily need to be undressed in order to have sexy time.

SexyImagination

SexyImagination are a group of women who share their non-performative #metime in a way that’s #joyful and #cinematic.

SKINpictures

SKINpictures are a Kiwi/American couple who met while travelling and have maintained an explosive #realworldsexlife both in person during their passionate reunions and through the interwebs when they’re many thousands of miles apart.

skno1

Skno1 is a British musician who’s moved to share her #metime whenever the mood strikes — whether it be in a cruise ship cabin after a successful gig or in the front seat of her little car on a road trip.

Sky+Moose

Sky+Moose are a young married couple who enjoy dressing up for costume parties and then taking said costumes off in front of the camera.

soartmodel

soartmodel is a 50 year old minx from Oregon who’s always up for learning something new about herself. Recently diagnosed with Lyme disease, she inspires and titillates us by showing what sexuality in the midst of a chronic illness can look like.

SubtleCravings

Subtle Cravings are a married couple who use shadows and filters as a way to creatively obscure their identities while enjoying some much needed #ustime while their toddler is asleep.

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Tabby + Monkey

Tabby and Monkey are a young British married couple who enjoy energetic romps will with giggles, passion, and lots of real world #clitastic orgasms.

Tango246

Tango246 are long distance lovers who film their #metime as a way of connecting sexually over the many miles between them.

thelmasleaze

Thelma Sleaze is a queer person who shared their first video with trans friend Leeloo while they were having fun in the tub.

ThisIsOurHandle

ThisIsOurHandle is a #realworldsexy collaboration between real world gay pornstar and MLNPstar, Dale Cooper, and friends. Cinematic and creative, Dale brought MLNP some of its very first gay #realworldsex videos.

TIGERLILY

TIGERLILY are a British married couple who share a passionate connection that they enjoy capturing when their many children aren’t around and they have the house to themselves.

two_sybarite

two_sybarite are a 50-something married couple who share videos of their kinky, sensual #realworldsexlife. Expect blindfolds, feather teasers, and restraints.

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ubmetoo

Ubmetoo are a long distance couple who have a special #yummy way of greeting each other when they reunite after time apart.

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Vanessa26

Vanessa26 is a young Italian student who uses #metime as a way to relax ahead of her often difficult exams.

Violet+Rye

Violet+Rye are a married hipster couple living in Brooklyn who share #cinematic videos that capture their uncommon appetites.

VonBettie

VonBettie is a queer femme lesbian of color who shares the ravenous romps she has with her partner, Ember, and other friends with benefits. Expect lots of passion, great communication, and the occasional giggle.

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wanderandlust

wanderandlust are a joyful bohemian couple from Canada who delight in outdoor romps and lots of connected #realworldsex around their cozy apartment.

WeMegiddoStyle

WeMegiddoStyle are a married couple who met through the fundamentalist Christian church and left together after realizing they didn’t see sexuality as sinful. Their videos are filled with the passion of two lovers whose pent up desires have finally been released.

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xxxotter

xxxotter is a gay man who can reach orgasm nipple stimulation alone. His debut video is a must-see for folks curious about how real people get off in the real world.

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