We ADORE this post about the beauty of #realworldbodies written by massage therapist, Dale Favier.

Everyone looks beautiful on a massage table.

We ask our MLNPstars to share with us how they like to spend their earnings, so that we can share it with you. We’re delighted that MrandMrsLau chose to donate their earnings to a cause very close to their hearts. 

Read on to learn more about the inspiration behind MrandMrsLau’s generous gift.

“My 7 year old son’s best friend has an autistic brother. This little boy has been on his death bed quite a few times and it has caused a lot of distress for his amazing parents and siblings.

At the moment he is doing really well. He got a puppy from his parents and it has really changed him for the better. That bond between him and his dog and seeing how his face lights up when he’s with the dog prompted us to want to donate our MLNPstar earnings to Canines for Disabled Kids. We really wanted our donation to benefit children because being born into a difficult situation is something they have no control over. We think Canines for Disabled Kids is an amazing program and we hope that more Americans will get behind them so that they can enrich the lives of more little angels.

Xxx
The Laus”

What would you do with your MLNPstar earnings? Learn more about what our MLNPstars have done in our #realworldinbox.

by Violet + Rye

You can read the NSFW version of this post and other delectable musings on V+R’s blog, Uncommon Appetites. Also, check out their featured edition!

1. ThisIsOurHandle. Seriously, just watch the trailer. It’s gorgeous (we didn’t just think of doing our new video in black and white out of nowhere). Stunningly well filmed. Edited wonderfully. And stars two incredibly attractive men. And they are smiling. And laughing. And doing some totally hot shit. Also, FOREARMS.

2. BZ and Gloria. We’re thrilled that these two are fellow MakeLoveNotPornstars, as we’ve known about Balthazar and his amazing photography skills for many years. They were able to translate this style to video beautifully and as if that weren’t good enough, the chemistry between this married couple is palpable. Seriously, it’s in our mouths. Like, ALL UP IN IT. Oh, this also contains the most nonchalant fisting ever. Because isn’t that what #RealWorldSex is about? Shit, it’s only kinky the first time, then it’s just something you do sometimes (or all the time).

3. Nebbish and Goddess. We love the leopard. We love the communication. We love the multiple angles. We love the Liberator pillow. We love the enthusiastic cunnilingus. We love the very real, very hard orgasm. We’ve gotta get one of those Liberators…

4. Mr. and Mrs. Lau. We’re on a boat, motherfuckers! Eating pussy, motherfuckers! On a motherfucking boat!!! But yeah, as you could probably guess, this was filmed on a boat. He’s really enthusiastic, which is the way we like our pussy eaters to be. And it’s totally hot. MAKE MORE VIDEOS, GUYS, WHY IS THIS THE ONLY ONE? ALSO, SHOW US MORE OF HIM NEXT TIME!

5. Audiosmut. We’re a bit voyeuristic. And a bit exhibitionist (DUH). And lovers of coffee. And being sexually sneaky. So the idea of the person sitting next to you at your local cafe getting worked up enough to lock the door and have at it in a quick solo session is one we’re pretty into. It’s handheld, there’s a lot of “what am I seeing exactly” and anonymous. Plus, it’s made by the excellent ladies at Audiosmut and for radio producers, a pretty impressive showing for a rare video foray.

And now the “Five Videos We Haven’t Seen But Are On Our MUST RENT List” list:

1. BZ and Gloria. Yes, again. This time, they take a trip to a B&B for the weekend and BRING A FRIEND TO FILM THEM. As people that have often uttered, “it’s so hard to shoot this” during our videos, the idea of a friend taking control of that part is something we’re pretty intrigued by. Plus, having stayed in a few B&B’s and know how naughty it can feel to have sex in one, we know well the heightened sexual arousal they’re probably under while this video was being made. Maybe we should just rent it now…

2. Nebbish and Goddess. Have we ever discussed how much we love assplay? Oh, we have? OVER AND OVER?? Yeah, that sounds accurate. Well, turns out Nebbish and Goddess do too. So we’re pretty much going to check out just how much they enjoy it. Oh, and bonus points for pulling it off in a quiet country inn (we’re sensing a theme here).

3. ModestyAblaze. We haven’t decided which video yet, but we’ve been meaning to rent one of them. They just look so hot. Plus, we have to admit, we’re curious about her relationship with her husband and lovers and how it all works. A first hand video demonstration of one aspect of it helps. We’re into it.

4. HavingFun. They’re having fun, alright. With editing. Multiple angles. Focal range. Spanking. All the good stuff that we’re total suckers for. Plus, as anyone who’s seen our Satisfied video, the Tom Waits soundalike in this extra long, extra juicy trailer is speaking our language.

5. Ela Darling. We’re PRETTY into her. Which means we’re also pretty into watching her have sex with a longtime crush of hers, Aaliyah Love. Plus, the phrase “I love it when you’re creepy” is uttered in the trailer.

Love the recommendations? Well, then, you might enjoy 10 #realworldsex videos that make Madam Curator all tingly and 16 #realworldsex videos that get Cindy going.

Read more about Violet+Rye and their experience with MLNP.tv here.

Darling MLNPstars, I cannot thank you enough for sharing your #realworldsex on MLNP.tv! You are daring, delicious and oh-so-down-to earth, and every day you inspire us not only to keep going but also to be more open and honest (and sexy!) in our own #realworldlives. 

But enough with the written word. I need to tell you this. Watch below as I illuminate the specifics behind your complete capturing of my heart. 

Follow me at MadamCuratorXO on Twitter and send any curation-related questions to Sarah@makelovenotporn.tv.

As our wonderful members know, we’re very open about the fact that we are a tiny, bootstrapping venture, so very grateful for all of your support as we work together to grow our community, build our business, and spread our vision of celebrating, sharing and talking openly and honestly about #realworldsex worldwide.

We need a very particular form of help.

Is there, anywhere out there, a full-stack Ruby on Rails and JavaScript developer who feels passionately about our mission and who has the desire, the time, and the circumstances to be able to provide development help for free?

We would need you to bring these skills:

•  mid-level skills with Ruby on Rails

• strong expertise with HTML5, CSS/LESS, JS

• a passion for user experience

• be motivated, communicative, self-directing

You can be based anywhere – in New York, where I and co-founder/CTO Corey Innis are based, would be particularly useful, but otherwise we remote work as a team and across time zones. (Co-founder/UX Lead Oonie Chase is based in Portland, MadamCurator Sarah Beall in Montreal.)

We’re asking for free help because the nature of our venture makes it much more difficult to raise additional funding, than a bootstrapping 9-months-old-in-public-beta startup with 170,000 members and a demonstrable impact in terms of traction, income and social mission would normally experience. (Every aspect of business any other startup can take for granted, we can’t, because the small print, on paper and in people’s minds, always says ‘No adult content’.)

We are focused on lateral and creative ways of raising funds, and so our promise to anyone who is qualified and able to help us on a voluntary basis now, is that as and when we are in a position to do so, this will translate into a paid scenario.

So – if you believe in what we’re doing, are all of the above, and would like to help – please email jobs@makelovenotporn.tv.  We need you – desperately!

Watch MLNP.tv Ceo and Co-founder, Cindy Gallop, deliver her keynote from The Summit digital stage in Dublin here.

Written by Andrew Smiler for  The Good Men Project. Originally published November 14, 2013.

Written by Nina Hartley for Kinky. Originally published November 13, 2013.

by bilikesscifi. Originally published on their blog and shared with permission.

This last weekend, we recorded and uploaded our 5th video to www.makelovenotporn.tv.

WHY?

Because we like to show real world sexuality. We’re not porn stars and we don’t see this as porn (although we have no problem with porn). We’re doing exactly what we do in our normal lives – just recording it and occasionally sharing it. It’s documentary of what real sex with real bodies looks like. It’s real & pleasurable. I write about sex, but words never paint a picture like this.

Despite my discomfort and uncertainty in showing my body, I’m at heart an exhibitionist and he is too. We love our bodies and are proud of them. It’s important that real bodies are shown having sex.

We like the money. Let’s be honest – money is a nice incentive to share this kind of intimacy. So far with the payments we’ve received this year, we’ve contributed to good causes, upgraded our own equipment, and paid some bills.

This video

Our newest video isn’t sex. It’s not oral sex. There’s no squirting. There’s no kinky foot job. Instead, I give my partner a hand job. We’ve shared a prior video of him getting a hand job from his point of view. (That was the first video we ever made.)

I’ve bragged that I give some of the world’s best hand jobs*. My partner has told me repeatedly that I play with his penis better than he does. This new video on makelovenotporn has a lot of teasing, some ball spanking, a tiny bit of cock biting, and one really powerful full-body orgasm for him at the end. Of all our videos, it’s also the longest we’ve recorded and shared – thirty-six minutes in total. Thirty-four of those are dedicated to his hand-job.

*This is based entirely on my two partners who have told me some form of this compliment.

Read more great posts by our members and MLNPstars in our #realworldinbox.

Written by Felix Clay for Cracked. Originally published November 23, 2013.

Written by Danny Wylde for his blog Trve West Coast Fiction.  Originally published on November 21, 2013. 

Read more

Even more from Danny Wylde on this blog.

Follow him on twitter and watch his #realworldsex on MLNP.tv.

Read more posts by our MLNPstars and #realworldpornstars who share their #realworldsex in our #realworldinbox.

Madam Curator age 21

Give or take a billion years ago, when I was 21, I got into my third significant LTR. The guy was 25 (so old!!) and cute in a hipster-y, scruffy, art student kind of way. As is custom in the land of promiscuity and loose morals (aka Montreal) we slept together right away. And, given that I was tipsy (drunk) and didn’t care that much (insecure), when he asked me after about 10ish minutes of missionary whether I had had an orgasm, I lied and said yes. It was already a bit awkward to have someone I hardly knew all up in my junk and even though I knew what would make me come (oral sex) I didn’t want to complicate our romantic evening of beers and medium-good small talk.

Also, to be honest, whenever I slept with a guy for the first time and he didn’t automatically go down on me, I would wonder what was wrong with him.

Like, he’s been in a 5 year relationship, did his ex-gf just hate getting head? Is he just being lazy with me because this is potentially a one night stand? Oh man, maybe all the women he’s ever been with have been faking it the whole time and he has no idea and no way do I want to be the person to break that news to him. Also, five beers, zzzz.

Anyway, as luck would have it, this guy and I ended up in a two-ish year relationship. And, somehow, for the first year of this relationship, I faked every single “orgasm” I had with him. Notice the passive language I’m using? “Ended up” and “somehow” are expressions you use when you’re denying your involvement in the things that “just happen to happen” to you in your life. Guys, I’m smart, I was 21, but there were lots of reasons why I dated this guy (loneliness, regular sex, to silence that gnawing feeling inside) but I’ll bore you (move you to tears) with that little case study in a much more heart-wrenching post.

What I’m saying is this that even though, I still kinda think this guy should have tried to lick my pink jellybean on the first night, it’s not really his fault after I falsified information and ultimately took a year to get up the guts to tell him what I really wanted.

This is why communication from the get-go is so important, and you know, maybe not sleeping with someone if you don’t think you’re confident enough to tell them what you really want.

I mean, I felt like a bad feminist. Like I was spreading misinformation. Like I was part of a legacy of women who faked it and were therefore doing a disservice to all womankind. I was my own worst enemy, and “the enemy,” and honestly, I think I hated myself for it a little. Here I was reading all about women’s sexual empowerment and yet, I had dug myself into an orgasm-less hole and it was my fault.

One thing that did help during this time was reading a book called Jane Sexes it Up. In the forward, the editor talks about writing a letter to her boyfriend, confessing to the fact that she’s not really coming when they have sex. It was the first thing I had ever read that didn’t simply assume the equation: no knowledge of clit = Not enjoying sex. Getting yourself off was one thing but getting off with another person was something else entirely. You could be a clit-loving feminist and still have trouble communicating your needs with your partner. At least me and this one other woman were not alone.

And, you know, I was not about to write a letter confessing my lie to my “decent human being” but commitment-phobic bf. I don’t remember whether I explicitly thought he would dump me but I was pretty intent at that point on not rocking the boat. (Insert little man in the boat not getting rocked pun here).

Oh, and if you’re wondering why I did just reach down during sex and manually get myself off, well, I’m sorry to say I need something stronger than my fingers to get the job done. I’m a vibrator-loving gal, and no, there was no way I was going to introduce that kind of awkward buzzing and noise into my already awkward relationship. I know, I was disappointed in myself too. Self-blame and shame and what feminists call cognitive dissonance was definitely playing a big part in my decision making. Barf.

So basically, I was starting to think I would be living an orgasm-free life for the next 5 years to life (give or take) the same way gluten-free folks just say no to sweet, sweet pasta while a little part of them shrivels up and dies inside.

Then something miraculous started happening: my long abstaining bf started going down on me! And, he was good at it. And, somehow, once he was down there, it was actually a lot easier for me to tell him what to do. I mean, sometimes half the battle is just knowing he doesn’t find your privates off-putting. I know, I know, bad feminist.

I’ll never know if it was his plan all along to spend a year getting me so insecure and horny that making me have my first ever orgasm with him would make me cling to him like a koala to a tree, but it worked. Gradually, he started going down on me more, I was beyond complementary and made up some flim flam about how this was my “new favorite way to come,” and I was finally having orgasms. Every time we had sex.

And that was when it struck me. This Is How He Feels Every. Single. Time. We. Have. Sex.

Guys, up until that point, I just, I did not have the experience to understand such a miraculous thing until it started happening to me. And, of course I was jealous of all his past orgasms. I enjoyed sex but I had never enjoyed it this much! I was getting myself off solo, but it was different and fun with another person.

There I was, using sex primarily to get my emotional needs met (they were not) and kind of missing out on one of the whole points of you know, doing it.

Like, there was a whole rush of lovely brain chemicals and muscle contractions that I was just not privy to up until that point. And, of course, the shared experience of feeling That Good together.

I’m happy to report that after this major revelation, me and bf never went back to just sex without a little downtown action first. I can’t help but think that on some level he realized that I hadn’t been coming in the beginning and that was why he kept it up. Also, I can only assume he enjoyed eating me out. But we never talked about it and our relationship ended a year later with the same confusion and emotional upheaval (mine) with which it began.

So, this is the cheeky version I tell to people when I have a little too much wine at parties (2 glasses and yes I know I’m a serious person). But, honestly, if this story can help someone feel better about faking an orgasm due to insecurity or help push you to be more honest than you have been the first, second or zillionth time you’re in bed with someone, that would be the bestthingever. As a result of this experience and others I am now a full-on equal opportunity orgasm enthusiast. Not only will it help you sleep better, it just might change the way you view sex, and hopefully, yourself.

Read posts from our MLNPstars and community members in our #realworldinbox.

Follow Madam Curator on twitter.

The fact we describe MakeLoveNotPorn as not porn, not ‘amateur’, but #realworldsex has some people puzzled.  Surely, if MLNP.tv shows naked people having sex, we must be porn?

One of the issues here is the way our society uses the word ‘porn’ – often to describe anything involving naked people and/or sex. I get equally frustrated by the tendency for the term ‘porn’ to be used as if porn was all one big homogeneous mass. That’s like using the term ‘literature’ as if all literature were the same.  The landscape of porn is as varied and full of genres, sub-genres and numerous different forms as the landscape of literature.  Just as a lot of things classified as ‘porn’, strictly speaking, aren’t.  (What Tumblr considers ‘porn’, for example, is often any nudity whatsoever, and any form of individual sexual self-expression in an everyday context.)

Language matters – which is why one of the things we’re doing is creating a new vocabulary for #realworldsex. And why we draw a distinction between porn in the generally-used sense (professionally-produced – this applies to a lot of so-called ‘amateur’ as well – performative, specifically-created entertainment) and #realworldsex.

We explain what we mean by #realworldsex here and what we curate for here.

We also acknowledge that while we want to showcase non-performative, #realworldsex, the presence of a camera or camera phone inevitably begs the question of how real and natural anything can be – which is why we ask you the question, ‘How does your behavior change when a camera is observing you?’ We don’t know the answer, but we are very interested in our members’ responses.

One of our members, a man who’s watched a lot of porn and is a big fan of MLNP.tv, told us,

‘When I watch your videos, I feel I’ve never seen people have sex before.’

Another man told us,

‘Watching porn makes me want to jerk off. Watching your videos makes me want to have sex.’

Which we loved because we’re about connecting people. We’re building MakeLoveNotPorn to act as sexual social currency: to help make it easier to talk about sex in the real world, to help get to better sex, to help get to better relationships, to help get to better lives.

Members occasionally email asking us to cancel their account (because we’re tiny and bootstrapping, we haven’t yet been able to build a ‘self-delete’ capability). We always take the opportunity to ask why. This is what one person told us:

‘I think your site is great and it is a great idea too… I don’t really know if I find the right words to tell you why MLNP.tv isn’t for me, but it has to do with feeling weird watching real people having sex. It feels much more voyeuristic than watching porn with actors. Here, I saw real emotions, real people and I knew that and for me it felt wrong to watch them in such an intimate manner (even if they share their videos willingly) I felt like an intruder in their privacy. As the name of your site implies, they made love, not porn and well… I couldn’t find my own satisfaction like this.’

Another person who also asked to cancel their account said:

“I guess I felt like a voyeur on your site, watching real people’s private affairs. It wasn’t a faked performance.”

(By the way, members’ reasons for cancelling have generally been uniformly positive.  Just today, the reason given for a cancellation request was, ‘It was (is) fun, but I just found it was taking too much of my time.’ But we like that! )

Here are two other members (a male/female couple):

‘We’ve been interested in your site since its inception. The videos are so beautiful, simply because they are so natural and allow others to witness one the most beautiful things in the universe in which two people can share. We know most people do it. But, when you think about it, it’s actually an honor when others (non-pro) allow you to witness them and, in a way, become part of their experience. The “rental” fees are not really just charges to watch as much as they are tokens of appreciation for allowing others share in their most private and intimate times together. So, your site is very unique and we hope it continues and flourishes.’

And this is a man:

‘I know this is probably one message among a thousand, but I felt the need to express myself—even if it isn’t received.  I am a paying member of several pornography sites, and I joined your site with the intent of using it just like all the others.  I watched one video, and I get it.  I wanted to say thank you.  I don’t know if it makes sense, but I sincerely feel like I owe a debt of gratitude to you guys.  What I saw today was absolutely beautiful.  I didn’t intend to be “converted”—if you will—but I have been.’

We’re an experiment – one that is just 11 months old in public beta (but with, at the time of writing, over 205,000 members, which we are thrilled about). We are learning ourselves, all the time, about what is #realworldsex versus porn.  Which is why this is an ongoing discussion, and why we’d love to hear what you think.

Written by Rashida Jones for Glamour Magazine.  Originally published December 2013.

“This fall I was hanging out with my sisters, catching up on pop-culture stuff. We watched some music videos, looked at a few Instagram accounts, and checked out blogs. And amid the usual duck-lipped selfies and staged paparazzi photos, a theme emerged: Stripper poles, G-strings, boobs, and a lot of tongue action were all now normal accessories for mainstream pop stars. Across the board the Instamessage seemed to be: “You know you want to have sex with me. Here, take a look at lots of parts of my body.”

That was at the end of October, a month that had already brought us the Miley Cyrus cross-continental twerk-a-thon and Nicki Minaj’s Halloween pasties. With the addition of Rihanna writhing on a pole in her “Pour It Up” video, and Lady Gaga’s butt-crack cover art for the song that goes “Do what you want with my body,” I was just done. I’d had enough.

I don’t know when the pornification of pop stars became so extreme, but as Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” video played in the background—naked fantasy women bouncing around and licking things—I realized that the lines were not really blurry at all. They were clear. A new era had arrived.”

Read more here.

I love love love this beautiful, moving little 15-minute film by Sam Taylor-Johnson, starring Andrea Riseborough and Harry Treadaway. It perfectly captures the innocence and wonder of first love and first #realworldsex, in the days before internet porn and its impact as default sex education for the young of today. (It played a key part in enabling Sam Taylor-Johnson to score the hotly coveted directorship of the forthcoming film version of ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey’.)  And for those of us who were alive in the seventies – the Buzzcocks!

Watch the full video here.

Read about more #realworld depictions of #realworldsex in film here.

Here at MLNP.tv we celebrate #realworldbodies. And look how even more beautiful you are when you’re loud and proud of your own fabulous #realworldbody!

Originally written for Huffington Post. Published on December 6, 2013. 

“What is “attractiveness”? Artist Gracie Hagen devised one way of addressing the question. In an effort to explore distance between media-propagated imagery — the ones that star photoshopped men and women with impossibly pristine bodies — and the genuine reality of our own flesh, she embarked on a project titled “Illusions of the Body.”

View the photo series here!

Watch MLNP.tv Ceo and Co-founder, Cindy Gallop, deliver her keynote from The Summit digital stage in Dublin here.

Written by Clarisse Thorn for The Good Men Project. Originally published May 20, 2011.

Last year, the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation ran a challenge to ‘Develop The Next Generation Of Condom’, looking for designs for condoms that were easier to apply, maintained pleasure or made for female use in the hopes that more people would use them, curbing the spread of HIV and other diseases. Eleven teams have won grants of $100,000 each and have 12 to 18 months to develop their products; the most market-promising condoms will be awarded up to $1 million dollars.

That’s a really laudable initiative, Bill and Melinda – but it’s not enough. Before you change condoms for the better, you have to change people’s attitudes towards using them, desire to use them, and behavior around using them, for the better.

MakeLoveNotPorn exists to inspire what every society in the world so badly lacks: an open, honest, healthy dialogue around #realworldsex. Condoms are, and have to be, a crucial part of that dialogue.

Everywhere in the world today, easily-accessed internet porn is now the default sex education for young people – and for people, period. In #pornworldsex there are no condoms – or if there are (relatively rarely in straight porn, more the norm in gay porn)….suddenly the condom’s on! Jumpcut! Where did that come from? At the opposite end of the spectrum, if condoms feature in sex education classes in schools, they do so in an artificial ‘put the condom over the banana’/death-disease-disaster-prevention scenario that fails to acknowledge the realities of #realworldsex.

There is a huge gap in the middle that nobody’s delivering on, discussing and, most importantly, demonstrating, and that is absolutely critical to preventing HIV, STDs and unwanted pregnancies: how you make condom usage HOT.

We want to help fill that gap by introducing a new sociocultural meme – #condomhot. We want to showcase the hottest, most arousing #realworldsex videos  that eroticize condom usage. What’s the hottest way you can introduce a condom into the action? Put it on? Take it off? Dispose of it? We want to see the most creative and ingenious ideas possible for those awkward condom moments we all encounter. Because if more of us were exposed to more creative ideas on how to make those awkward condom moments hot and arousing, there’d be a lot more safe sex happening, a lot less sexually transmitted diseases, and a lot fewer unwanted pregnancies.

This week, we’re publishing a special edition – MakeCondomhotLoveNotPorn. We’re delighted that in the course of our first year of existence in public beta, a number of our MakeLoveNotPornstars have submitted #realworldsex videos featuring condoms.

Going forwards, we’d love as many of you out there as possible to join them and us in communication through demonstration – showing everyone through your #realworldsex videos that not only do condoms not get in the way of great sex, they can be a fundamentally integral part of great sex.

And by the way, even if you are in a relationship and don’t use condoms – please feel free to get some condoms and have fun with them. We welcome any #realworldsex ‘fun with condoms’ videos that will help other people feel less awkward around them and inspire seriously #condomhot sex.

I feel particularly strongly about this because of my own dating model. I date younger men, casually and recreationally, as I explain in Playboy’s 60th Anniversary issue:

That means I operate very much on the frontlines of condom usage – because not only does #realworldsex for me always feature condoms, my encounters also enable me to experience firsthand young male attitudes towards and behavior around condoms.  

Many of us, if we are fortunate, are born into environments where our parents and our families teach us good manners; accountability; a sense of responsibility; a strong work ethic. But – because of our embarrassment and awkwardness around sex and our reluctance to talk about it – nobody ever brings us up to behave well in bed. They should; because empathy, generosity, sensitivity, kindness, and honorable behavior are as important in sex as they are in every other area of our lives and work where we are actively taught to exercise those qualities.

Going into sexual encounters equipped with condoms and happily and proudly using them is a key part of great #realworldsex etiquette.

MLNP.tv is only one year old in public beta, but we have built up a wonderful community (214,000 members at the time of writing, and many more supporters of our mission – ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.’ – all around the world). When you support MakeLoveNotPorn, you are making a statement about your beliefs and your values as they relate to #realworldsex. Quite frankly, as far as we’re concerned, being a member of MakeLoveNotPorn naturally = great in bed. #condomhot is a key part of that.

When you MakeCondomhotLoveNotPorn, when you make sure you always carry condoms with you, when you know how to have fun with condoms in bed in a way that makes things easy and non-awkward for your partners, whether it’s a relationship or a casual encounter – THAT’s great in bed.

This is the first in a series of posts we’re planning on MakeCondomhotLoveNotPorn. In my next post, I will write in detail about my experiences with condoms in my own sex life and how I like to MakeCondomhotLoveNotPorn. We’d love to invite those of you who submit #condomhot #realworldsex videos to guest blog about your experiences too.

Oh, and Bill and Melinda – any time you want to support and fund our #condomhot initiative, we’re happy to talk! cindy@makelovenotporn.com

It was just one year ago that we pressed the button that took MLNP.tv out of closed, private beta into full public access beta, and exposed our precious little newborn venture to the world.

And the world has been wonderful.

Two of our three co-founders, Cindy and Oonie, at our public beta launch party

Today we have 218,000 members, growing every month.

We have 60 wonderful  MakeLoveNotPornstars who have contributed 160 #realworldsex videos between them, from all around the world. Our MakeLoveNotPornstars hail from the US, Canada, the UK, Ireland, France, Italy, Denmark, Mexico, with new MakeLoveNotPornstars  from new countries coming on board every month.

We are so grateful for and so proud of our MakeLoveNotPornstars who share their #realworldsex with us, and delighted to hear from you how the process of sharing has benefited and taken your relationships to new levels – you can read about that in the MLNPstarsspeak section.

Corey, Oonie and Sarah during a precious in-person work session at the black apartment

And we are so, so grateful to all of you, our wonderful members who support us and who write to us telling us how much you love what we’re doing and the ways in which MLNP.tv has helped improve your own relationships and sex lives – we publish some of those messages here in our #realworldinbox.

We love that you get it.  We shared here how the occasional membership cancellation request feedback has been so interesting regarding the difference between porn and #realworldsex.

A man asked to cancel his membership last week, explaining:

“MLNP.tv is something I would like to join again in future, but with my girlfriend next time, so that we can explore it together. Unlike a conventional pornography site this feels more like a community and so feels more personal and more like a 2-way communication. Because of that, I would feel less comfortable being involved without it being with my partner. Not sure if that sounds logical, but that’s the reason that for now I’d like to delete the account.

I think it’s a really positive thing that you’re doing with the site. Hope to join again in future.”

I wrote back to say we’re delighted, because that’s exactly right!

We also love you for demonstrating that our revenue-sharing business model works.

Along with ventures like Airbnb, Uber, Taskrabbit, we are part of the collaborative economy.  Jaron Lanier quoted here in the New York Times, says ‘If Google and Facebook were smart they would want to enrich their own customers.’  Well – we already do!

Our Graphic designer Daniel Blackman, Madame Curator and her (very lucky) husband are watching you…

We’re delighted to report that thanks to all of you wonderful video renters, our MakeLoveNotPornstars are making up to four figures at each payout, and we love that they are both treating themselves and doing good things with their earnings.  For example, Mr & Mrs Lau donated theirs to a cause close to their hearts and bilikesscifi allocated some of theirs back into supporting MLNP.tv by renting other MakeLoveNotPornstars’ videos.

We’ve been open with all of you about the battle we fight every day to build this business. Every piece of infrastructure any other startup can take for granted, we can’t, because the small print always says, ‘No adult content’, as I speak to here in this interview with Nerve and which is why, as frustratingly for us as it is for you, we seem to make it so hard for you to give us your money.

We so appreciate your patience and understanding as we battle glitches and technical hiccups with our very limited resources, and we promise you we are working to change this situation, so that we can significantly improve your experience and build our site out to have all the features it’s still missing at the moment (the ability to search more easily and effectively, share, follow your favorite MakeLoveNotPornstars, comment, rate etc etc).

CTO Corey and developer Rachel doing some last minute coding at our launch

I want to take this opportunity too to thank the four key people without whom none of this would have been possible. My amazingly talented co-founders, CTO Corey Innis and User Experience Lead Oonie Chase, who are responsible for the design and building of our platform.

Click on the pic to see them in action!

Our lovely MadamCurator Sarah Beall, who operates her own uniquely wonderful and sensitive approach to curation and community management to make us everything we are:

And our original angel investor, who prefers to remain anonymous, but who believed in us when no one else did, and who has been and continues to be our biggest cheerleader. We are forever grateful.

All of you in our community have been instrumental in helping us already see the dynamics of social and business acceptability moving gradually in our favor. FastCompany identified us as one of the 10 Ways We’ll Be Dating, Having Sex And Breaking Up in 2025.

That gives us eleven years to get to global domination and our ultimate goal that one day, no one should have to feel embarrassed ever again about having a naked photograph or a sex tape of themselves posted on the internet – because it’s just a natural human part of who we all are.

Happy 1st Birthday everybody!